A Decade | 5 tips to Surviving the first 10 years of Marriage

This post was suppose to go live on 17 November 2013. But, we were so busy from our annual vacation, I didn’t had the time to complete this post. So, I am taking this Valentine’s Day to Appreciate my Husband and the wonderful 10 years.

We do not celebrate relationship milestones. But 10 years….. Being officially married for a DECADE seriously calls for a celebration in this era where divorce rates are rising continuously.

A relationship that was first started based on taking a chance has soon multiplied. We’re now a family of 5. I am truly blessed to be married to Kitson.

In 10 years of marriage I’ve learnt that fairy tale marriages hardly exist. Real couples fight and have differences. Learning to sort out our differences, constantly working on our relationship and perseverance is needed to make it to “till-dead-do-us-part” of our wedding vows.

It has been a wonderful 10 years.
Singapore mom blogger IRene Soh shares 5 tips to Surviving the first 10 years of Marriage

Singapore Mom Blogger IRene Soh shares 5 tips to Surviving the first 10 years of Marriage
Kitson, I appreciate you because;

You are a fantastic husband and an incredible father. Despite all the flying, you chose to spend your off days doing family centric activities instead of hanging out with your buddies.

You share equal responsibility in this relationship.

Your jokes are corny, but it’s original and it makes me laugh.

You are always supportive.

People say that the first 10 years of marriage is always the hardest.

Despite the ups and downs you held strong and believed in our marriage. Thank you for never giving up on me, and always loving me.


5 tips to Surviving the first 10 years of Marriage:

  1. Have Realistic Expectation of your Spouse.
  2. Marriage is a 50/50 partnership.
  3. Keep your MOUTH SHUT when you are ANGRY.
  4. Lose that face, pride and ego. Say SORRY.
  5. Be Generous with your Compliments

Ending this post with 2 videos by Mark Gungor. The most sought-after speakers on marriage and family shares how to stay married and not kill one another.

Liking up with Klessis for Love Talks:

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    • singaporemomblogs says:

      🙂 Beverly: Get him to watch Mark Gungor videos from Youtube together. It’s so hilarious, but yet enriching!

  1. paula says:

    Congrats on your anniversary! We hit 5 years a few weeks ago, and still going strong! You have a beautiful family!!! I love your 5 tips, we are definitely following those already too, so I have to agree with your advice! congrats again!
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  2. Regina Partain says:

    Hi Irene. Great post. As you may know I am currently doing a series on “Bullet Proofing Your Marriage”. This fits right in. Congratulations on 10 years of marriage, may they be the beginning of many, many happy years.

    I would differ with you on only one point of your five. I absolutely agree with you on all the others. The one point, though, comes from some marriage advice that was given to me 44 years ago when I was engaged. A friend of my mother’s said to me “Honey, everyone is going to tell you that marriage is a 50/50 propositions. Don’t you believe it. If you aren’t willing to give 100%, it isn’t going to work”. I have never forgotten her counsel.

    That said, you are right in that we are in it equally. We just have to be willing to give it our absolute best effort. You are also right when you talk about marriage being work. It isn’t always pretty. But it is so worth it.

    It sounds like you have a wonderful husband and family.
    Do you think you and your husband would be willing to be interviewed for my series and ultimately a book that I am writing on the subject?

    Let me know. Thanks for this great post.
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    • singaporemomblogs says:

      Great advice from your mom’s friend. Yes I agree both party have to put in 110% hard work to make a marriage work.

      Hubby should be a willing subject for your interview. Good luck on that book you are planning to publish.

  3. Alli says:

    Congrats on your 10th year anniversary! I’ve been married for 31 years and it is work, but it’s so worth it! Here’s to many more years of marriage!

    • singaporemomblogs says:

      Alli: WOW! 31 years!!!! You should be dishing tips to me instead!!! Congratulation for 31 wonderful years to you and your husband!

  4. Sarah says:

    Congratulations on 10 years! I’m about to have my 3 year anniversary, so I still have a lot to learn. Keeping my mouth shut when I’m angry is something I really struggle with. I have to constantly remind myself to wait until I’ve calmed down to discuss the issue with my husband.
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  5. Elizabeth says:

    I love Mark Gungor! He always makes me laugh. Congratulations to you! You have a beautiful family and should be proud of 10 years! Marriage and family are precious commodities. Thanks for the wonderful tips! Patience and empathy are very important in maintaining positive relationships.
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  6. Felicia says:

    WOW!!! What an awesome way to celebrate your husband!!! I love this and look forward to when I can incorporate all of these different ideas and bits of advice I have received during this commentathon!! I love the pictures of your family and the way you spoke TO your husband, not just about him!! That speaks of his support of you! Thank you for sharing!!!
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  7. Chrystal @ YUMeating says:

    Such a beautiful family! Marriage is hard work, but is rewarding. I also think that one should keep their mouth shut when they are angry. Communication the right way is key. Sadly, my husband and I are both hot-headed people and stubborn to boot. We often say things out of anger and it’s something I’ve worked very hard to correct.
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  8. Megan Bailey says:

    Such a beautiful post! I celebrate with you on such a fantastic milestone! My husband and I will be able to celebrate a decade in about a year and a half, and we have both discussed that we would like it to be extra special.
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  9. Chuck Taylor says:

    What a wonderful blog and what a beautiful family. I love what you have done here. My wife, LeeAnn and I celebrated our 10-year anniversary in August last year and value the same tips you propose. We were exposed to Mark Gungor about 6 years ago and love him. What a great tribute you have to marriages and better living. Thank you for living your life so well. Blessings.
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  10. Louisa says:

    Excellent survival tips and agree with them 100%. We’re going on 15 years and those tips have helped us in many ways. Especially number 3. Sometimes you say things you don’t mean but it leaves an indelible mark on your partner. Thanks for the refresher!
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